What actually makes someone a narcissist? Do you think we use the word too much now?

"Narcissist" is a term that has been used more frequently in recent years, often in casual conversation and online discussions. However, it is essential to distinguish between the clinical diagnosis of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) and the colloquial use of the term.

In a clinical context, Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a mental health condition characterized by a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, a need for admiration, and a lack of empathy. Individuals with NPD may have an exaggerated sense of self-importance, a preoccupation with fantasies of unlimited success, a belief in their own unique brilliance, and a constant requirement for excessive admiration. It is important to note that narcissism as a trait alone is one that we all have a healthy amount of. Being selfish to a certain extent is important and essential for our survival! However, narcissism becomes a clinical issue and can warrant a diagnosis when it consistently impacts one’s ability to regulate, connect, and lead stable, healthy lives and relationships.

So while someone may show narcissist traits, it does not necessarily make them a narcissist. More often than not, this is most likely what the majority of people are trying to convey in conversations when talking about “narcissism.” Making this distinction can allow us to avoid pathologizing individuals and in oversimplifying complex personality traits. The next time this comes up in conversation, consider shifting your language a bit to better inform yourself and others!

Kathryn Lee