I feel like I’m always the “strong one” for everyone else — but how do I ask for support without feeling guilty?

If you’re used to being the “strong one” for everyone else, asking for support can feel unfamiliar or even guilt-inducing, but it’s a vital part of being human.

Start by reminding yourself that strength doesn’t mean doing it alone. It also means knowing when to reach out. You might begin with someone you trust and say something simple like, “I’ve been going through a lot, and I realize I could really use someone to talk to.” It’s okay if it feels vulnerable. Sharing your needs doesn’t make you a burden. In fact, giving others a chance to support you can deepen your relationships and create more balance. It can also help to recognize the barriers to reaching out and what is causing you to feel guilty. Remember, you don’t have to carry everything by yourself in order to be worthy of care.

Taylor Gaffney