Breakups are tough, and everyone experiences breakups differently. Often individuals feel the urge to “get over '' their former partner and give the impression that they are doing well and moving forward with their lives. They may continue to stay in contact with their former partner and not allow themselves to truly process the relationship.

If you want to move forward in a healthy way, give yourself time, space and both physical and emotional distance. You might feel the urge to “get over” your former partner as soon as possible, but know that the only way out is through. Whenever we are in something, it’s hard for us to see the bigger picture. In giving yourself time and space, you are giving yourself permission and the opportunity to see the bigger picture and hopefully gain some clarity on why the relationship did not work out. Allow yourself to be confused, angry, sad, hurt. Embrace the feelings now; if you don’t address it now it will likely come up later. This can be one of the greatest acts of self love and respect post breakup.

In addition, keep yourself busy and participate in activities and hobbies that you enjoy. Reconnect with yourself and nourish your body, mind, and soul. Make sure to stick to your routine: sleep, rest, hydrate, eat, exercise and maintain your own personal hygiene. Use this time to ground yourself in your intrinsic worth, beliefs, and values.

Most importantly, lean into your support network. Community is so crucial to the healing process. Talk to your loved ones and friends! Allow yourself to receive support and to gain insight on the relationship through a different lens.

Remember, the only way out is through. Envision the version of you that is waiting for you on the other side of healing.

Kathryn Lee