Six ways to navigate the season when you’re struggling

What’s considered to be “the most wonderful time of the year” can sometimes feel like the exact opposite. The holidays can be a difficult time for some people, and in many different ways — maybe you’re longing for someone you can’t spend the day with or you’re anxious and overwhelmed because you aren’t able to truly be yourself around your family. Whatever it is, you are not alone.

If you’re feeling like this time of year is too much to handle on your own, here are six different ways to help get you through the holiday season.

1. Know that you’re not alone

The holidays can feel very isolating at times. If you don’t feel like you have somewhere to be or a place full of support, there are always places for you to go. If there’s someone else you know that doesn’t have plans for the holidays, ask them to go out for coffee. Call a friend that you haven’t talked to in a long time. Know that you are not alone, even if you feel otherwise.

2. Show some compassion

Throughout the next few weeks – and really throughout the year – try to have some compassion for others. This time of year can bring up many emotions, and you never know what someone is dealing with. Take some time to do something for someone else – like volunteering at a soup kitchen or a nursing home. There will be so many people that are grateful you’re there, and it can actually improve how you’re feeling too.

3. Remember it’s okay not to be okay

It’s easy to get caught up in what you think the holidays should look like. It’s okay to struggle, and it’s okay if things don’t pan out exactly as you had planned. If you need to, forget about the holidays and go back to the basics of self-care. Make sure you’re being honest about your mental health and the ways you need to prioritize it, instead of focusing on the way you think things should look.

4. Take a moment for you

Sometimes, the holidays require you to be in situations that can push your mental health to an uncomfortable place. Don’t be afraid to take a break when you need to. No matter where you are or what situation you’re in, take a moment for you. Focus on breathing for a few minutes, repeat a mantra, or just go for a walk. Whenever your mind starts to get the better of you, take a moment and do something small to turn off the negativity and shift your focus. You can make it through whatever tough situation you’re in.

5. Ask for help

It’s okay if it’s not the most wonderful time of year for you, and it’s okay if you’re struggling. Don’t be afraid to let people know how you’re feeling. If you just say, ‘this time of year is really hard for me,’ people will likely understand completely and then be able to provide support. You don’t have to deal with all of your feelings on your own.

6. Use your resources

There are so many resources available for any crisis – big or small. Even during the holidays, people are there to help you 24/7. Don’t be afraid to reach out when you need to.

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We know how tough the holidays can be, but you’re not alone. It’ll get easier, and you can make it through the season.

Taking Care of Your Mental Health Over the Holidays